Entry #4: Listen to your Body, Change your Mindset

As a kid, you probably have fallen and scraped your knee and started crying for your mom, asking her to put a bandaid on it to make it feel a little better. We all have done something like this, right?

Well, what if I told you that the band aid itself does not actually heal the wound, but rather your body heals itself. Our bodies are magical, and what’s wild about them is that when you scrape your knee the body knows to clot the blood right where the wound is to then create a scab. Just like when we suffer from a cold, our bodies create antibodies to attack the foreign invader. Our bodies healing on their own is just the tip of the iceberg and our bodies are capable of healing much more than just the physical pain, all with the help of our mindset.

The documentary called Heal explains this perfectly, which can be found on Amazon prime (I strongly recommend watching it because they explain this much better than I do). Anyways I digress, the documentary basically talks about many levels of physical distress that different individuals experience. From the extreme of cancer, to a run of the mill migraine, when faced with a physical ailment the body can indeed get rid of, or heal the infected area with the correct mindset or positive thought pattern.

Now, when I first heard about this I was a little skeptical to be quite honest. Up until my body gave me the opportunity to test it out. I experienced it first hand once I allowed myself to. First, it started with a little ear ache, then a small aura in my vision, to gum inflammation, then to top it all off, a flickering headache that would turn on and off for about 3 days. So, like any normal person would, I got it checked out by a doctor, and like any doctor would say “drink more water and take tylenol.” Okie dokie brb lemme just keep doing what I have already been doing for the past 3+ days.

I sat with myself with frustration and remembered a conversation I had with a mentor and realized I brought this upon myself through the thought patterns I had been having and not being aligned with my higher self. I was thinking thoughts that vibrated with a lower frequency like “I look awful” or “I’m not getting what I want” and focused so much of my attention on the pain in my head. Also, I just wasn’t giving my being the proper attention it needs to feel good like eating whole foods, mediating, journaling, and moving my body.

When you focus your attention on what you do not want you get more of the same. The universe doesn’t know what “no” or “not” means so when you’re focused on something like “not wanting to be in pain” the universe only sees the “wanting to be in pain” and will give you more of the same. To give you a better understanding of what I am trying to get across, it’s like someone telling you to not look down and you automatically look down. The same concept applies here. So when you have these thoughts flip it into something that vibrates in a positive way like “I want to feel relaxed and light” in said area and then you’ll get more of the same. This can work for anything, not just your body but with the things you want, (but that is a topic for another day).

Once I flipped my attention to feeling better, feeling refreshed in my head, my gums healing and meditating, all the symptoms I was experiencing went away. Your mindset and the way you think truly does have a great affect on your physical self. You must exist beyond those negative thoughts and dig a little deeper into something more meaningful and aligned with your true self. Try it the next time you have an ache or pain and see what happens.

Entry #2: The Magic of Discomfort

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Moving somewhere you have never been, trying something new, talking about our feelings, it’s all an uneasy feeling when we experience these types of things. That uneasy feeling is this magical thing called discomfort. Yes, I said magical, but let me explain..

By definition, discomfort means mental or physical uneasiness (Merriam-Webster). But let me add to it really quick. Discomfort: the feeling of mental or physical uneasiness that is meant to help you grow to reach your higher self. Sounds a bit better doesn’t it? 

I know we have felt this type of discomfort I’m talking about in some way or another. It’s a challenging type of discomfort one way outside your own comfort zone. It feels like there is a conflict going on inside yourself. 

The feeling of this type of discomfort makes us all want to recede back to what makes us feel safe again, but I am telling you that is the opposite of what we are supposed to be doing when dealing with it. Discomfort is there for us to lean into and grow from it. Face the discomfort head on and sit in it and learn the lesson the universe is trying to teach you.

I feel like I have been the queen of looking at discomfort straight into the face. I made the decision to leave what I know in my home town in the chicago suburbs and move to an island 4,000 miles away with two girls I barely even knew. I cried every single day for the first 2 weeks. Took the bus 2 hours to work and  moved apartments all by myself and cried some more. Really wanted to go back home, but then the universe gave me this earth angel. This girl that gave me great comfort and advice. And with the words she gave me I decided to stay and I have learned so much about myself and the world around me. Plus, that angel soon became my girlfriend. She is one of the main reason why I love Hawaii because when I’m around her she reminds me of the strength that I have. She has been the one who taught me most about being uncomfortable and how great beauty comes from it.

I sit here writing this, faced with yet another discomfort. Sometimes I feel like I can’t catch a break, but this is my path I am able to handle great discomfort. I get the sense that my job is no longer serving me. A job that I have had ever since I was 18. A place that has seen me at my best and at my worst. It’s all I know and I feel as if it’s not in alignment with me anymore. It used to be a place where it was all about people, making connections, having fun, all while being a supportive environment where there was no reason to feel like your feelings or needs aren’t being met. But here I am feeling the opposite where when I talk about how I am feeling or the concern for my own safety it feels brushed upon and not heard. A place where numbers matter more than people. The amount of sales matter more than how the entire team feels as a collective . A place where it’s now I have been told “that is what it is going to be like now.”

Discomfort is there for us to lean into and grow from it. Face the discomfort head on and sit in it and learn the lesson the universe is trying to teach you.

Reggie DeFilippo

I was about to go into an interview for the position that is above me, which was something that I always wanted, but hours before the interview something inside of me was telling me to withdraw and so I did. I realized I didn’t want to be a leader in that type of environment. I value love and connection and especially the growth of others, which is why I created this blog. To create a safe space for myself and to encourage others to do the same.

Now I’m about to dive a little deeper into my thoughts and what I am facing about this. My first thought, first instinct, something that I have been thinking about for weeks is that maybe I should just stay home for good when I go home this month. Because the thought of returning to a job that is no longer in alignment with me sounds awful. I want to recede back to my mom and dad feeling held under their roof. But, I am 22 years old and can’t just go home whenever I feel like it. I am an adult and these types of things are going to happen day in and day out. Plus, I have someone I truly love to think about. Our relationship started while we were apart and the thought of doing that again for even longer makes my heart hurt. 

So, this is where leaning into the discomfort takes the reins. It’s here for a reason. I can control where I work to some extent. I can drop down my hours and work somewhere else. Creating the last bit of time I have left on the island as more of a vacation than “real life.” A time where I spend most of it with my girlfriend before we head to California. Who knows I’m not sure after all no one has it figured out.

So, the next time you’re faced with discomfort I ask you to lean into, to run full force into that son of a bitch and own it. The discomfort is there to guide and support you to become your higher self.